You are just waiting for your little one to learn to talk and to have conversations, and when he develops a rich vocabulary he becomes indiscreet, sluggish and trivial. As if you did not want to know so many words in the moments when you give up in front of your partner, as in fact you gave more on the dress recently bought than you told him!
Do you have an indiscreet child?
Indiscreet children should be helped to overcome this problem which can affect them both in childhood and in adulthood. Besides the degree of annoyance it causes to others, social isolation is the biggest risk that such a child takes.
No child or adult wants to have around him a person who does not know how to keep a secret, whom he or she pre-commits or who abusively intervenes and the granddaughter in their conversations. Talking to children is encouraged since they are in the stage. First they experience babysitting or "baby talk", then they start to say the first words and before you know it, you can already have conversations with them.
They are left around TVs, radios or music and develop a great attraction for words and discussions. The loud talk or the intervention in the discussions of the big ones is for him a way to attract attention. But it is the duty and responsibility of parents to teach them how to speak, when to keep a secret, when to shut up and when not to go that far. No parent wants to grow a little gossip or "mouth-shatter", but few still pay proper attention to the education of the child for this purpose.
Be an example for him!
Both you and the rest of the family! You do not have to let the child see how you are gossiping other friends, betraying the secrets of another, or guarding someone. Also, long talk on the phone with friends, in-ear or in-ear conversations, hidden conversations, in a corner with other people and other such conversations set a bad example for him. Because he will do the same with his friends!
Always listen to him and give him the necessary attention!
The child can become indiscreet even when not given the necessary attention. That's why it's essential to give them enough time when they have something to tell you and always pay attention to it. Involve him actively in the cleaning of the house, in the shopping plans and often talk about what the interaction between 2 people implies, the conversations, how it should take place, when it should take place in a discussion, etc.
Set a rule against barfit, parade or betrayal!
If you do not want your little one to become this way, then set rules in this regard. You must speak to them and make it clear that:
- he is not allowed to speak to anyone badly and especially in his absence;
- when someone tells him a secret, he must know how to keep it, as long as that secret does not endanger (neither his nor the other's) danger! (this is a delicate rule that must be carefully discussed with the child);
- it is not allowed to leave, but to try to resolve the conflicts by peaceful means alone, without any aggression;
Because these are rules, the consequences of their failure to comply must be established from the beginning. It will not be easy to implement such rules in the behavior of your little one, but as long as you are persistent and always repeat them, especially when you violate them and explain or answer them questions, in time you will respect them.
Help him make friends and how to deal with them!
Integrate it into groups of children, either on the playground, or at courses or at sports clubs where they can interact with other children and from where to choose friends. Then, teach him how to behave in a friendship, what is good and what is not and other associated social rules!
Teach him good manners!
No age is too small to help him learn good manners, but at the age at which your little one speaks fluent and coherent it is important to learn some good essential social manners! Teach him not to interrupt the conversations of others, not to be lazy and know how to keep secrets.
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