How to stop yelling at a child?

How to stop yelling at a child?

The first impulse when a child is naughty or has a sickness is to scream at him from all the rarities. All you have to do is hope for nickel, but in no case do you convince him to never do that sickness again. But screaming is useless in disciplining children. And then, how can you control this impulse, which seems almost uncontrollable?

Breathe deeply

Whenever the child is disobedient or you tread on your nerves, you try to breathe repeatedly several times exactly when you come to scream at him.

Since you notice the disease or hear his defiant response to your request, turn your back, close your eyes and breathe a few times. It is a good time to gather yourself and give you the necessary reason to take the right measures for inappropriate behavior.

Ask firmly, but without yelling

If you do not scream, it does not mean that you have to laugh or approve of the bad habits of the child. On the contrary, you still have to address him somehow and in no case with the smile on his lips. But it is important not to raise the tone, but to have a firm but calm expression. Experts argue that a calm expression, in a warm tone, but firmly has a greater impact on children than the screamer and they listen with interest and better what you have to say.

Find out from him what are the causes for this

Before you start screaming, better ask him what are the causes of the behavior or what caused him to act like this. Children sometimes make unintentional or unknowing causes. If you yell at him, it's like when you accuse him that he did it intentionally. That is why it is more important to find out what caused him to act in this way, to help him not to do the same thing again the next time.

Notify the child of the consequences of non-compliance with the rules

Set strict rules and make sure they are respected! If not, apply punishments (but not physical ones). It is important, however, to tell her verbally when you state to her that there are consequences of her non-compliance. In this way, the little boy will know what awaits him and will weigh well whether he will do those facts or not.

So, instead of yelling at him, he'd better apply the punishments set from the beginning.

Apply positive discipline

In this way, the inappropriate behavior of the child will diminish. Instead of focusing on your baby's pranks, better praise him for the good ones and encourage him to do more. The more you yell when they don't behave properly, the more your little one will focus on them and pay more attention to them. The more you try to diminish, but do not ignore, the attention on them, the less they will diminish over time.

Put yourself in his place

Or go on the principle of "what you don't like, no one else does"! Remember if you liked to scream at you when you were a kid and had a point. If your answer is no, find out that children are not too melted by this practice. When you scream at the child, you risk creating frustration and diminishing their self-confidence and self-esteem.

Nobody is perfect

Not even you! And even if you try to avoid yelling at the child, it is possible that you will sometimes miss her once and for all. It is nothing, it does not mean that you have failed or that you are unable! It is perfectly normal for minor accidents to happen! But it's important to talk to your little one afterwards and tell him that you didn't want to yell at him and that you didn't want to upset him, but that it's important for him to listen to you and not break the rules anymore.

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