Nightmares are a natural part of the child's natural development. These occur in the REM phase of sleep. The first ugly dream of the child can appear before the age of 2 and can confuse and scare you very hard. And not only him, you can be quite confused and scared. Here's how you should react!
You have to know that if your little one dreams badly there is nothing wrong with him. Almost 40% of children between the ages of 5 and 12 have occasional nightmares. They are a natural part of their development. The child's first nightmare may still appear before the age of 2 years.
Don't ignore the baby's nightmare!
Just telling the child that he has nothing to fear because it is a dream and that he has to go to bed again, does not help. You do not have to disregard the dream because if you ignore it you will make it stronger. Ignoring the nightmare can frustrate him and heighten his anxiety. For the young child, he is very real and does not understand that it is only in his mind.
React as soon as the child cries or cries!
go to him in the room and take him in his arms to calm him;
hold it tight, handle it and kiss it on the crest;
speak to them in a calm and warm tone;
explain to him that he dreamed ugly and ask him to tell you;
wait a few minutes with him until he calms down and feels better (leave the door open or a light on);
eventually, stay with him until he goes to sleep, etc.
It is important to understand the cause of the nightmare! Talk to him!
The causes of children's nightmares are not fully known, but they are thought to be caused by changes in the child's life. It is especially about strong emotional transformations, traumas, etc.
That is why it is important to ask and listen carefully to the child when he or she tells you your nightmares. Be careful and do not miss any details. This is very important to be able to enter his mind and try to understand what his fears are. Then, think carefully about what changes have occurred in his recent life. And he talks to him about the fears and fears he is trying.
You have to try to relate to the surrounding world through the "glasses" of a child, because what you may find normal, the child may find frightening.
Help him defeat the dream monsters with the help of the game!
A good way to react to the child's nightmare and to help him overcome it and be stronger next time is the game.
For example, if he tells you that he dreamed that an ugly monster was coming quickly to him, tell him that the next time he dares to appear in the dream he must tell him loud, loud to leave him and not to go back. never. Tell him that most likely the little boy did not have anyone to play with and came to him to look for his company. Practice through the game how to react and what to say. It is also a good opportunity to explain that if the monster is ugly it does not mean that it is bad. It will help you later when you have to deal with discrimination and stereotypes about the physical appearance of people.
You can also create other toys and you can make the dream of that dream together. A little fun on his part will further relax the atmosphere.
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