Yes, that's right! Here is another opportunity to learn to know yourself better, to become more aware of yourself, which gives you the extraordinary sense of hearing. Remember this: most people don't hear ten percent of what they are told! They have the gift of hearing only what concerns them directly, filtering inside their information received. Since no one is perfect, it is very possible that you belong to this category.
But our ears must be used to perceive love. That's hard to accept, right? Especially if someone close to you is criticizing you all the time! Without a doubt, you will ask me: "How can I hear love in the words of my husband who spends his time criticizing me for everything I do not like?"
When you happen to criticize someone, do you realize what the reason is, what lies beyond this criticism? Do you criticize that person because you don't love her? Or because you love her very much, but not as you should? Regardless of your way of loving, what ultimately matters is that you love that person!
Here is what lies behind the criticism. Whether it is your life partner, your child or a friend, you criticize him for not meeting your expectations. That person should have acted differently, according to the expectations you have formed since you met him. Suddenly, an incident occurs and you are disappointed because it does not act, think or speak as you would have liked. Therefore, you are ready to criticize her. Why? Simply because you want to help her see things more clearly, being convinced inside you that she should have behaved differently.
Beyond any criticism there is love. To discover this love, it is enough to listen. If the person you criticize would be indifferent to you, he can do or say anything; you will not care for little puppies! You would not think of criticizing her because her words and actions would leave you completely indifferent.
Others have the same attitude towards you. The fact that they criticize you shows the importance you have in their eyes. In addition, when you criticize yourself, have you noticed that this is due to your actions or attitude? The way you dress, talk, laugh, dress or work ... They criticize your attitude and not your real self, your essence. When a critic disturbs you, it means that you have felt rejected, you have not felt your girlfriend in your deep self. But that person did not criticize your essence, your real self. She loves you as a human being. It just reprimanded you for your kind of being.
Suppose now that someone comes to you to complain. Instead of just thinking that this person needs someone to listen to it, do you think you want to ask for some advice? Are you sure if this is the case? I ask you this question because it is a common aspect of human relationships. We are convinced that we have the answer to all questions. Even before verifying that the other person needs our help, we rush to shoot his head with our precious advice. We are sure that we can solve his problem and we see him already coming to express his gratitude for the help received. But the reality is, in general, quite different. In most situations, the complainant is not at all prepared to do something to solve the problem. Your friendly advice will not impress him a little. That's not what he wants to hear!
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If you look forward to giving advice and honestly believe that you have the solution to the problem, start by checking if it is true. When the caller has finished telling his situation, ask him if he wants your help, if he wants to tell you your opinion and give him some suggestions. His reaction will indicate to you the best attitude to take.
You know, the advice we want to give someone else is often a piece of advice that we should give ourselves. It is not necessarily necessary for someone else. As they say: you can give your cat all the money, but what will he do with them? Better give him his favorite food and he will feel great! So are people. Discover that person's need, talk to them about what they want to hear and you will feel in the new heaven! To him who loves nature, talk about nature, about God manifesting himself in the light of the sun, in the flowers and in the trees; you will certainly understand this language.
Do you often happen to be around a person who cries ceaselessly and, no matter what you say, will continue to lead a life full of unhappiness and trouble? Next time he will tell you his misfortunes, you can help him by saying the following things: "I heard everything you told me. Now it would be great to hear from you what you decided to do to solve the problem" . It is possible to not be glad at all to hear your words and to answer: "But I have no choice! I cannot change anything! Everything is right for me!" Then, simply tell her that you no longer want to hear her talk about her problems, that it would be great for you to hear her speak in the future, but only on the condition that she make a plan to resolve her situation. Of course, these words can provoke a real shock: he may be so angry with you that he won't want to talk to you anymore. But it is also possible to produce the exact opposite effect and start to reflect on its behavior.
In fact, what this person expects from you, with his endless complaints, is to make you feel good with words like, "Don't worry! It's not so bad! Everything will work out, you will see! You have patience and courage, time solves them all. " She wants to hear words of embarrassment. After you have comforted her, she will probably tell you: "How good I feel now! I always enjoy talking to you!" In all this time, both of you have done nothing but transform the energy of unhappiness into energy of happiness. You used your energy to encourage her by telling her exactly what she wanted to hear. As for her, she will continue to spin in the same circle of unhappiness.
No one is responsible for someone else's happiness. It is not the case to watch over the happiness of others. Your role is to guide them so that they will come to love each other and love others more. Certainly, your role is not to encourage them to continue to indulge in their criticisms and problems.
Do you happen to bother a lie, to feel that something is false in what you have heard? What is your attitude towards this? Do you listen to your interlocutor pretending you believe him, but criticizing him in your inner forum? In this case, you are as liar as he is! You lie like him, because you think one thing, but you let something else grow. If you find that some of the people around you are not sincere, that is because you become aware that you are not always sincere. And not necessarily out of wickedness! Often, it is the fear that causes such an attitude: the fear of not laughing at others, the fear of not being at the height of a situation or the fear of not deceiving you ... Accept that the lack of sincerity of others is due to their own fears . Instead of criticizing them, try to see in them the child they are afraid of.
If you really want to change the situation, start today to be honest. When someone talks to you and the ones you hear seem fake, don't hesitate to tell them your opinion. Here's a way to express yourself: "I don't know if the imagination is playing a part in me, but you talk to me about one thing and I hear something else. I have the impression that what you are telling me is not really what happened. simple to check, something is happening inside me and if I don't talk to you about it, I will want to criticize you. And the truth is that I don't want to criticize! Saying something like that, you were honest with yourself and your interlocutor. Whatever his reaction, it was you. Gradually, you will see that it is increasingly easy to be honest.
What reaction do you have when speaking in an authoritative tone, when you are told what to do, when and how, or why not to do it? Would you like to do exactly the opposite of what you were told? Do you tend to react to authority? Remember the mirror theory: if an attitude bothers you, it reflects something in you. Can't you accept that? You may not behave as an authoritative person, but in the depths of your soul you have a tendency toward this attitude. In any case, if you do not act in accordance with what you feel, the result will always be critical: towards yourself or others. But during this time no one will feel good about you, because this critical attitude emits negative vibrations around you.
Instead of hearing authoritative words, try to hear words of love! What you find authoritarian is often someone who wants to create the impression of a strong personality to hide their fear. Also, he may really want to help you, but he does so in an authoritative way because he is the only one you know. He expresses, without a doubt, what he learned in childhood; probably in this way he was loved by his parents and so he learned to express his love. Therefore, if you are willing to see love, fear or suffering in the authoritarian people, you will not hear the same words. You will no longer perceive them as a threat.
Express your feelings
Often, it comes out differently than we would like! We are beginners in the art of expressing love in us. This has definitely happened to you; the words you use are not always the exact expression of what you feel in your heart. If you want to do a love affair with yourself, start today by really listening to the people talking to you. When the message is not clear, ask them to take it from the beginning and try to perceive words of love. This exercise can transform your life in a radical way.
So, everything you hear gives you a chance to change your life. Why would you not use these extraordinary powers that belong to you? In reality, as soon as you do not accept what you are told, as soon as you become angry, give up this power. And the result is that you miss yourself. This anger builds up gradually and ends up exploding. You end up losing control. It is also good to understand that you rarely feel anger at someone else. In most situations, you are angry at yourself. Even if, apparently, someone else has triggered it and receives it, your anger is destined.
The most unpleasant things we hear from other people are almost always things we tell ourselves or should say, but we don't dare, we don't want to express them. For this reason, our overconsciousness puts us in touch with people who tell us such things. I know the truth can be hard to bear! We imagine that others do not love us when they tell us a painful truth. When in these words we hear nothing but love, fear disappears. No matter how people express themselves, we will only consider the love that goes beyond the words spoken.
What do you listen to in your spare time? A beautiful music that helps you lift or the songs that excite you and whip your senses? Do you choose educational shows that help you to understand yourself and to love yourself more? Or shows that disturb you, arouse fear, make you doubt yourself or fill you with anxiety about the future? You know, unfortunately, we rarely hear good news on the radio or on TV. In California, someone launched a newspaper that contained only good news.
The outcome? Went bankrupt! Many people prefer to hear or read bad news. This allows them to say, "Ultimately, my life is not so sad!" They like to be compared to those who do worse than they do. Does that mean happiness?
To reach happiness, listen to beautiful things, fill yourself with extraordinary things. To be happy, as with everything else, you need study. If you want to learn to play the piano, you have to take lessons. If you want to learn to skate, you have to take skating courses. If you want to be happy, you have to study happiness.
If you are with someone who wants to listen to something you don't want to hear, whether it's on the radio, on TV or in a conversation, you can ask them to change the show or topic, and in case it doesn't accept, you can go to another room or go do something else that makes you happy. It's your choice! No one can be forced to listen to something they do not want to hear.
In this world, everything has a polarity: up and down, good and bad. Certain things help you get in touch with God. Others make you lose contact with Him. The best way to adjust your behavior towards opposites is to use your discernment and follow your intuition. Polarization allows us to use our free will and experience the consequences of our choices. Everything serves the evolution of man.
"The one who dares to correct me is my friend.
A word that bothers me is a word that I begin to hear. "