The resumption of sex life after birth raises new problems and questions on the lips of new mothers. These are related to the right time for this step, safe contraception methods for breastfeeding babies and sexual desire, which is no longer as burning as before.
Successfully overcome them and return to the sexual performance of the past with patience, caution and some help from doctors and partners.
Here's what you need to know about sex after birth and how to properly and safely protect yourself from an unwanted pregnancy, depending on how you feed your baby: breast or milk formulas!
Sexual rest after birth
When can you resume your sex life? Whether you were born naturally or through Caesarean section, the process of bringing a child into the world is extremely traumatic for the body. The natural birth is more traumatic for the body than the caesarean section, because the body is forced to cope with very strong pressures and adapt to the baby's passage through the birth canal.
This effort involves an enormous pressure exerted on the physical level, which sensitizes every piece of the body (especially the pelvic and genital area). Regardless of the type of birth, the body needs rest to recover and return to shape before pregnancy.
Hormone levels and uterus return to normal, signs and symptoms of pregnancy disappear, and you regain your powers and energy to cope with child care. A normal natural birth, without complications, can keep your sex life on the bar for 6 weeks. It is the period when you are lazy and the body is recovering.
There is no nail-biting interval for sexual rest, but sexual contacts should not be resumed before a thorough gynecological and medical examination after birth. Generally, the first consultation takes place one and a half months after the birth, when the body regains its sea form once.
Birth by Caesarean section is not as demanding as the vaginal one, but it does subject the body to a strong trauma, due to the surgery you need to go through.
In general, the same recovery interval is recommended as in the natural recovery period, ie 6 weeks. But the way in which the body is restored differs from one woman to another, depending on several factors:
- health condition;
Before trying to have intimate moments with your partner again, make sure you have the doctor's permission to avoid unwanted complications.
Libido or sexual desire after birth
One of the impediments that could lead to the resumption of sex after birth could be low libido. Fatigue, stress, unstable physical appearance and hormonal changes that occur in the body during pregnancy and immediately after the child is brought into the world are putting their mark on your sexual desire.
The specialists consider that it is normal to have a lower libido during this period, but you do not have to worry, because the problem is temporary. Immediately after the body returns to its former form, stress and fears are diminished, and your body gradually regains its former appearance (much of the belly disappears, legs and face deflate, etc.), you can try to contact sex with your partner.
If postpartum depression, fear of pain or physical complexities prevent you from having sexual contact with your partner, talk to them about these worries and try to overcome them together.
If you feel that your condition is altered, call a psychotherapist. Breastfeeding Contraception When you have overcome problems and successfully resumed your sex life, you must consider contraception.
You may be tempted to resort to breastfeeding as a contraceptive method, but doctors advise not to rely 100% on this natural barrier method. During breastfeeding, your body is naturally protected from the installation of a new pregnancy due to the absence of ovulation.
Breastfeeding stops ovulation and makes the conception of a new baby impossible. It's called lactation amenorrhea. But the chances of getting pregnant are only low, not completely excluded. Doctors claim that in this interval you are only less fertile than normal.
Menstruation is the main indication that you guide yourself to realize that you are fertile and that you are no longer protected in breastfeeding? Then you risk becoming pregnant, as the body begins to release eggs before the first postpartum menstruation.
If you have sexual intercourse during this period, there is a risk of a new pregnancy. Even when breastfeeding, you need to consider an additional contraceptive measure besides breastfeeding.
It is best to seek medical advice on the most appropriate and safe contraceptive method for you and your baby. Among the main methods of protection against unwanted pregnancy that does not affect lactation and the baby, are:
- birth control pills (hormonal oral pills specially created for breastfeeding, without estrogen);
- injectable contraceptives.
In case you and your partner never want children again, you can also consider the idea of postpartum sterilization: tubal ligation. But this decision must be well thought out, as it is an irreversible operation and installs permanent infertility.
In case you do not breast-feed the baby, but feed him with milk formulas, you can opt for any type of contraceptive method, since there is no risk of affecting the baby through lactation.
Talk to your doctor and find the best contraceptive method for you and your partner together.
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